There is potentially an endless list of traits that make a great discipler. Seth Barnes shares on his blog 5 traits that he sees in a great discipler.
What trait would you add that you value as a disciple and discipler?
Confidential. I'll respect privacy. Your confidentiality communicates, "You're safe. You don't have to hold back or worry. You can lay it all on the table and it stays with me." (Note: teachers and church staff are under mandatory reporting laws in most states).
"If your brother sins against you, go and show him his fault, just between the two of you. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over." (Matthew 18:15)
Open. I'll be vulnerable and share from my life. Your openness communicates, "I'm a mess too. You think you're the only one? Look at my stuff; I've made my share of mistakes. I'm still learning. If I can screw up and bounce back, then I know you can too."
"I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, what I hate I do." (Romans 7:15)
Available. We can talk whenever. Your availability communicates, "You're a priority to me. I'll give you my time. I'm going to put you in my weekly schedule. You've got a standing appointment, but that's only the minimum. Any time you want to shoot the breeze, we can do that."
"Now there was a man ... named Nicodemus, a member of the Jewish ruling council. He came to Jesus at night ..." (John 3:1-2)
Caring. You matter to me and I will make you a priority in my life. Your care for your disciple communicates, "You matter to me. You are not another business meeting. I want to be your friend. If you have worries, I want to help you process them. I want to help. If you are excited, I want to be part of that as well. I want to listen to you and understand what your heart is saying."
"Let us go back and visit the brothers in all the towns where we preached the word of the Lord and see how they are doing." (Acts 15:36)
Honest. I won't hold back. Your honesty communicates, "I'm not going to pull punches. If I see something in you that might be a blind spot, I'll try to help you. If I need to say something hard, I am also willing to hang in there to get through it. You give me permission to 'get in your face.' You may at times get angry but your anger will not cause me to give up."
"I am astonished that you are so quickly deserting the one who called you by the grace of Christ and are turning to a different gospel." (Galatians 1:6)
Wonderful! Couldn't agree more